Mental Break on Random Tuesday Thoughts Rebel is All About Love with Coffee Chat

Have you ever had one of those weeks where you feel like going off the grid? Not literally, but electronically speaking? That was my week last week. I wasn’t feeling the love last week (it’s not you, it’s me), and went into a mini hibernation mode from all electronically driven socializing. 

The upside is I finally got caught up on all of the back episodes of Chicago Fire I’d missed. Hot firemen always seem to make things right in the world again. Ahem.

Because I took a mental break last week-ish, I apparently purged all the randomness from my brain. But that leaves more room for Tuesday Chat! You’re welcome.

It’s time once again for Rory Bore’s Tuesday Chat!

This week’s prompt or question is:

Love. Amour. What is it? Does it happen at first sight? Do you only get one great love per life time? How do YOU know love?

Love can be complicated. Or it can be simple. I’m a romantic at heart. I wear my heart on my sleeve and would go to the ends of the earth for the people I love – whether it be family, friends, or someone I just met. That’s just me. I love everybody.

Love is an incredibly powerful word. When you’re in love, you always want to be together, and when you’re not, you’re thinking about being together.

Love is when you trust the other with your life, and when you would do anything for each other. When you love someone you want nothing more than for them to be truly happy no matter what it takes. You put their needs before your own and you hide nothing of yourself. It’s like baring your soul because you know they accept you just the way you are.

The biggest love – the most unconditional love – is the love for a child. I was lucky enough to get introduced to that on the day Princess Nagger was born:

Nothing compares. She’s my heart walking around outside of my body. That will never change, even when she’s in full-on tweenitude mode, she is love.

I don’t think you only get one great love per lifetime – I think you get as many loves as you open yourself up to entering into your heart. The answer to that question differs from person to person – I have loved many, and have had more than one great love thus far – and I still have many many years of this lifetime left.

I’m sure you’ve heard of the Five Love Languages – they are: gifts, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service, and physical touch. I don’t know about you, but my ‘love language’ seems to span all five. Who doesn’t like a nice, thoughtful gift? By the same token, I’m a giver, so I like giving gifts to those I love, too.

Quality time is always lovely, and since I appreciate the little things, those ‘acts of service’ go a long way to making me feel loved. And of course physical touch is a biggie, too. I’m a hugger and a kisser. Remember, I love everybody, so you’ll probably get a hug and a kiss from me if we ever meet in person. 

I think my main ‘love language’ of the five is words of affirmation – actions don’t always speak louder than words, so unsolicited compliments mean the world to me. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important – hearing the reasons behind  that love sends my spirits skyward. Insults can leave me shattered and are not easily forgotten. 

When we are loved, we tend to feel it intuitively in our guts. It’s really not that ethereal or supernatural, it’s pretty practical and down-to-earth. Our hearts take cues from our senses. Everything we see, hear, taste, touch or smell teaches us about our universe.

We don’t need to contemplate or ask questions. If we see a loving smile, hear loving words, or feel a loving touch, the brain processes this information and concludes, “Hey, we are being loved right now!”

In order for love to be real  love, it has to be expressed as an action. In this case, actions do speak louder than words. If you love your beloved, then you need to show it. By the same token, if you are loved, that will show, too. You will recognize it by the way you are treated.

Love can make you do anything, and make sacrifices for what will be better in the end. Love can be intense and passionate – everything seems brighter, happier and more wonderful when you’re in love. If you find it, don’t let it go.

How do you define love?

That’s a wrap for this week – you know the drill, link up and join in the fun, everyone is welcome, random or not. And that means even if you don’t have a specific Random Tuesday Thoughts Rebel post posted, you can still link up, I’m not picky. You don’t even have to add the badge, just link up so I can come harass you on your blog. I promise to play nice.

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Link up your Random (or not) here:

I’ve also decided to adopt Xmas Dolly’s idea of adding an additional linky just to encourage more followers where you need it most. We can all use more followers, right? So feel free to link up any post on the first linky, and a follower linky on the second one. Let’s see if we can party like rock stars!

Link up where you need to gain more followers here:

Keeping the random alive (barely) – feel free to snag a badge and play along – one for my wino friends:

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And one for my non-wino friends:

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