After lots of sleepless nights and tears, we finally decided it would be in Princess Nagger’s best interest to remove her from the gifted program and return her to Gen Ed.

Because the gifted classroom has both 5th and 6th graders in the same classroom, and because the educational aspect was 5th grade review when Princess Nagger is already way ahead of that grade level in her learning momentum (hello?! She’s in 6th grade and tested at the 8th grade level…), it was a better choice.

At least now she’ll get bored with 6th grade learning as a 6th grader, vs. doubly bored with 5th grade review as a 6th grader. It was a no brainer.

While the whole educational aspect was a factor (or lack thereof for this particular classroom/year), the other conundrum was the fact that the students in that classroom have all been together in the same class since first grade or so. Which explained the cliquey way they acted, and Princess Nagger was left out and feeling the blues because she’s used to making instant friends.

They weren’t a friendly sort.

Now she’s in the same classroom as her new best friend, and has a homeroom teacher that makes learning fun, so it really was the right choice. I am a firm believer that while the educational aspect of an advanced learning program is good for someone like Princess Nagger, the socialization aspect – particularly at her age – is equally important.

Finally, the tears have become but a glimmering memory. Whew. And the happy smile has returned. Double Whew.


Now it’s time to focus on Little Dude. Not that we weren’t focused on him before. This school is bigger than last year’s school, so he is not getting the benefit of having more one-on-one attention and has been having consistently ‘bad’ days (as evidenced by the frowny face indicator on his daily behavioral sheet the teacher sends home). He is not completing easy (or any) work given to him within the classroom, he’s apparently always ‘off task’ like going to get water, etc.

And they enable him. Because they don’t stop him from going off task.

What’s bothersome to me is the fact that I don’t find out about that sort of thing until the end of the week when he brings his Friday folder home with that week’s school work they’ve done in class – or in his case, not  done. Every day last week he had sheets marked ‘incomplete’ – and they’re all super easy assignments like practicing number writing – a whole sheet of the same number. Stuff that he had down to a science last year.

Not only is he not  doing the work given to him because he’s not focusing (nor is he having a teacher pay attention to encourage him to focus), but he’s acting out – cutting a classmates hair, then it was something else, and yesterday it was him poking a fellow student with a pencil as he walked past, causing that student to cry.

Every week he maybe gets one smiley face out of five. One. And that’s on a good week.


I am totally and completely at my wits’ end. And not only have I run out of patience with him, but more-so with the fact that the teacher is not communicating. At all. No notes, no ‘let’s see how we can help make him successful in learning’, no nothing. Nada. Zilch.

I have half a mind to go into the school and demand that something be done – he was labeled ‘special needs’ because he is a slow learner, he was labeled as ‘ADHD’ from a previous pediatrician and we obviously need to revisit that aspect, but seriously – we’ve explained his background and he did so well in kindergarten last year, I attribute it to the fact that that school actually took the time to figure out the best way to teach LD rather than have him simply flounder, lost in the crowd of his class.

Anyone have similar issues either now or in the past that you can give me some pointers? Maybe I need to find some sort of support group so I’m not floundering, too. Hopefully they have wine.

Sorry, I didn’t mean to be a Debby Downer in today’s post – so let’s finish this with a funny thanks to my good friend Jan who posted it on Facebook last week and made me laugh:


Somebody better not tell Sheldon. He might sequester himself in his room and then someone’s going to need to start singing. You know what I’m talking about, right?

“Soft kitty, Warm kitty, Little ball of fur. Happy kitty, Sleepy kitty, Purr Purr Purr…”

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  1. I would definitely go in and ask if there’s any way he can be in a class where the teacher can guide him. I’m not having as dire of an issue but my complaint is that this teacher is not prompting them to take their reading tests so my son, a second grader who can read on a 4th grade level, is way behind on these AR points. I am waiting to see if he can catch up and go from there but I hate that it seems like she isn’t giving them time to do tests.
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  2. So glad PN is happier about school. Tough that LD is having issues. We are dealing with some of Turbo’s adjustment issues and some of his difficulties with school too. If it isn’t one thing it’s another. Hope everything works out for you and LD gets what he needs to make school a stellar experience.
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  3. Actually, I have tons of experience with this, since The Young One had a really bad tendency to “zone out” in class until, oh, middle school. Like your experience, the school he attended in Texas made sure that we worked together to find the best way to help him stay on task. When we moved to Ohio, all they wanted to do was have him “officially” diagnosed with ADD so his standardized test scores wouldn’t count against the school. It took ALL year to get them on board with the kind of reward program that had worked so well in the past. By the time he was in middle school, he had no problems staying on task at all. It was horribly frustrating.

    I know you don’t want to medicate LD, and I wholeheartedly agree with that. You might want to look into his diet, and perhaps cut out things like artificial colors and flavors, as well as much of the added sugar, to begin with. It might help. In the meantime, try and get a meeting with both his teacher and principal and try and MAKE them understand what works with him and what doesn’t. YOU are his mother and know him best, and they should respect that and work with you.
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  4. I would like you to introduce me to Little Dude’s teacher. Tell her Aunt Pam wants to have a word with her. And then the Principal.

    But seriously, we need to find out why Teacher’s methods are the way they are and see how we can adapt them to Little Dude. Nobody should be getting that many frowny faces in first grade. I taught first grade and it’s supposed to be fun. Perhaps she’s not accustomed to having an active child? Perhaps their policies need to be reviewed? Perhaps we need to volunteer in the classroom?
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  5. I’m so glad to hear that Princess Nagger is having a better time, it’s all about that right teacher that makes it all worth while.

    HUGS my dear about lil dude. I’m so sorry it’s become that way. I so remember that at our last school with Cole and the sad thing was it was a small private school I paid for the one on one :(. I say you march up there. The only time I could get something is when I had to be the crazy mama bear. HUGS
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