This is the third segment of my ‘series posts’ catching everyone up on my Journey to my Miracle Baby. If you didn’t have a chance to read the first two segments, feel free to go read them here: The Beginning, and here: The Journey Continues…Segment 2 – Rebound Relationship: Abusive Hubby #2. Thank you all for your kind words, I appreciate the support!

Since hindsight is always 20/20, I looked back at the fact that I had jumped from the frying pan into the fire when I allowed myself to be fooled by husband #2. I decided I wasn’t going to go the route of the rebound relationship again, I needed time to ‘heal’ and find myself again, so I casually dated but didn’t get emotionally involved. I had some interesting dates with some not-so-interesting people, and some fun dates with fun people, and some bad dates, too.

I dated a local police officer for 6 months – because he had a ‘6 month rule’…if he wasn’t interested in marrying the person he was dating by the 6th month, he would move on. Alrighty then! I dated a fairly famous professional drag racer, which was an exciting time, even though I really can’t stand drag racing. I’m more of a Formula One girl, since I was a member of the SCCA (Sports Car Club of America) and had the honor of directing the race cars onto the track – even got to ride in the pace car once…that was a thrill-and-a-half! πŸ™‚ My friends and I would tease the stock car racers that they were messing up the track with their oil for our precious Formula One drivers… πŸ˜‰

The drag-racing boyfriend was the epitome of a bachelor – instead of ‘regular’ furniture in his house, he had a gigantic TV in his living room, and a hot tub…in the dining room! He had the TV positioned so he could watch from either the couch or the hot tub…it was…interesting. πŸ˜‰ But he was one of those bachelors that never wanted to be ‘reformed’ and had no interest in eventually getting married to anyone, so we mutually parted ways at some point.

Then there was the millionaire – he lived in Texas and I met him while on a flight with my friends for a weekend in Reno. He was sitting in the row ahead of us, and was eavesdropping on our conversation – he offered to buy us drinks, but thought it was hilarious we brought our own little bottles of rum with us to spike our coke with (this was obviously before they changed the rules so you can’t do that anymore). He had his laptop with him – one of the newest, decked out ones and one of my friends asked to see it, so he kindly showed it to us. Then he asked for my email address. He was cute and charming, so I gave the address to him, then promptly forgot about it and him as I had a fun ‘break-even’ weekend in Reno with the hilarious group of friends I was with.

When I got home, there was an email waiting for me. Cool! We started emailing back and forth, then talked on the phone constantly. As Thanksgiving week was approaching, he invited me to Texas where he lives to join him and his family for Thanksgiving dinner. Sweet! I was excited, this should be fun – he picked me up at the airport and drove me back to his house, where he helped me get settled in to the guest room. We had a wonderful time, had Thanksgiving dinner with his parents and met up with a group of his friends later in the weekend – had a hilarious time debating on who had an accent…of course they all did, but they claimed it was me that had an accent! πŸ˜‰ My birthday was coming up a few weeks later, so he offered to fly me to Las Vegas for the weekend to enjoy the National Finals Rodeo (NFR). How fun!!

It as an awesome weekend, I actually won a lot of money at the blackjack tables that weekend, he seemed to bring me good luck. It was hard to part as I headed back to Seattle and he headed back to Texas, but we made plans for me to come back and spend Christmas and the New Year with him in Texas. He kept pressuring me to move to Texas, but I was resistant to that big of a change, as I wanted to make absolutely sure that I didn’t get into yet another potentially controlling relationship and be far away from friends and family. I told him we’d discuss it further when I was there for the holidays.

Shortly after that he made a trip to Spokane and was insistent I didn’t drive out there (it’s only 4-1/2 hours or less from where I was), and he started to seem a little ‘off’…then ‘something came up’ – I think he said he had to be out of town, so he canceled my Christmas trip, but was looking forward to having me come down for New Years. Of course that didn’t happen, he had several excuses, and said he’d call on New Years Eve…which he didn’t.

I was worried about him, I knew he was traveling quite a distance to spend New Years with his parents, so I was concerned that he might have been in an accident. When I called his house the next morning, a female answered the phone…I quickly hung up, but then I thought maybe it was his sister, and maybe something bad had happened to him…so I called back. When the female answered the phone again, I asked “Who’s this?” to which she replied “J’s girlfriend ******, who’s this?” “Uh, J’s girlfriend, Stacy…” We commenced to have a very nice conversation for the next hour-and-a-half since he had just left that morning for another business trip in the Midwest. We talked about how he was planning on moving me to a certain town down there – about an hour from where he was going to have her move to. Interesting!

The following week I got a very strange phone call from J – he was all apologetic about the ‘mix-up’ for Christmas and New Year, started telling some outlandish story about why he hadn’t called, yada, yada, yada…until I couldn’t take it anymore and asked him who ***** was – he started sputtering on the other end of the phone, stammered that she was just a friend, so I told him that she and I had a very nice conversation the day he left for his trip. He replied ‘So that’s why she moved out before I got back!’ Good for her!

I did hear from her about a month later – she had moved on and found a new nice guy, and said that J had ‘confessed’ to having many different ‘girlfriends’ at all the places he traveled with for business. Yeah, I sure can pick ’em!! πŸ™‚ I cannot tell you how relieved I was that I had listened to my ‘inner voice’ and didn’t allow myself to be swept off my feet to the point of uprooting to another state again. The ‘me’ before my abusive relationship was back! πŸ˜‰

Tune in next week for the next segment ‘Meeting Mr. Right‘ as the Journey continues on the Road to My Miracle Baby. πŸ™‚

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  1. Oh wow, what a jerk! I cannot believe there are actually guys like this in the world? I thought it was one of those things made up for movies. Yikes. Good for you for not moving! I know what you mean about being swept off your feet and not really paying attention to the reality of situations at first.

  2. πŸ™‚ great sharing – at least you are kind to them in this writing. I don’t know if I would be with a couple of these jerks.

  3. Whoa, girl! I went back and read parts one and two as well. You're amazingly strong. I had two abusive boyfriends in my teens just before I met my husband, and so had a small taste of your trial by fire-can't wait to read your Happy Ending! <3

  4. You sure do have to kiss a lot of frogs… unfortunately… I’m so glad your fairytale ends happily! I’m going to keep tuning in for more! I love that you are writing this series… I can’t wait to hear the next chapter! (I’m a sucker for all love stories)

    Have a great Sunday, Stacy. And I just want to send a BIG thank you for always stopping by and leaving comments on my blog–your support is appreciated!

  5. Oh my goodness! You are such a strong woman! I cannot wait to read about your happy ending!!!!

  6. Wow, you have had some doozies. A race car driver and a millionaire? That sounds like a sitcom. I’m sorry the millionaire was a lying/cheating bastard but I’m so glad you found out. Who knows where that could have led otherwise. I’m staying tuned for the next installment!

  7. Who knew that years later he would become great blog fodder lol. You sure have had some interesting dates!!!

  8. @Yaya: Yes, apparently they exist in the real world, and when they do, I seem to find them! (grin!) I was just really glad that my radar seemed to have kicked back in… πŸ˜‰

    @I am Harriet: LOL Harriet! Awwwww, thank you for the thoughtful award – I’ll be posting it sometime this week after I scheme on who I’ll be passing it along to as well…(evil grin!) Thanks so much! πŸ™‚

    @Char: LOL! Yes, I suppose I was ‘kind’ to them in this writing – unlike how I was really in my head…(snicker!) But you know, I figured it’s one of those things where it’s in the past, and I lived and learned…and since my Quotable Sunday post was on ‘Happiness’…I figured I’d best not be negative! (grin!!)

    @Shangrila: Awww, Thanks Shangrila! πŸ™‚ I’m so glad you got away from your abusive boyfriends and didn’t marry them! Thanks for reading my story, at least everyone knows as I post these bits and pieces of my life that there truly is a happy ending! πŸ™‚

    @Nicole: Good thing those frogs didn’t give me warts! (grin!!) I’m a sucker for all love stories too – this is interesting for me to take a step back and realize how much I’ve been through to finally get to that happy ending…I guess I can’t say I’ve had a boring life, eh? (grin!!)

    Hope your Sunday has been a great one so far, too! You’re very welcome – I can’t let a day go by without reading your witty words and fun antidotes, that’s for sure! πŸ™‚ Thank you very much for all your support and kind words, too, Nicole! You ROCK! πŸ™‚

    @Bee and Rose: Awww, thank you so much!!

    @Firefly: Thank you, Firefly, I’m glad you’re enjoying the segments…I’m finding them very therapeutic to write…and reflecting on all that I’ve been through really makes me appreciate so much more the happy ending I was blessed with. πŸ™‚ Loved your Baby Story! I commented on it… πŸ˜‰

    @blueviolet: Yup, that’s me – a woman of mystery! (grin!!)

    @Casey: LOL Casey! I never thought of it that way… Let’s see, there was the windsurfer-turned-millionaire (not mentioned yet), the police officer, the millionaire, the race car driver, the Canadian body builder (not mentioned yet), oh – the other body builder (also not mentioned yet), the single father who had issues of bringing a woman into his son’s life….hmmm…I might have to think up a funny post just on those interesting individuals themselves…they were all pretty much doozies to be sure! πŸ˜‰ Thanks so much for following my journey! πŸ™‚

    @nikkicrumpet: LOL! You are SO right about that! Great blog fodder…(chuckle!) I have had some interesting dates, haven’t I? Never a dull moment! (grin!)

  9. You’ve been tagged by me–see blog for details! Please don’t feel obligated to play if you don’t do tags on your blog–Ciao for now!

  10. I love the series post – awesome idea! Wow, you’ve dated/married some doozies (I had to catch up with part one and two). I’m looking foward to part four!!

  11. I’m loving your story! I’m so glad you didn’t move with that guy! πŸ˜‰ I’m anxious to hear the rest of the story! πŸ™‚

  12. @Nicole: Thanks, Nicole! I commented on your site – I’ll be doing that later today…you know, when I’m actually awake and not sleep walking while drinking my morning coffee…*snicker!*

    @FoN: Thanks so much! Yes I have dated/married some doozies, haven’t I? πŸ˜‰ Thanks for catching up…and for stopping by! πŸ™‚

    @Young Momma: Thank you so much! I’m glad I didn’t move with that guy, too – though living in Texas would have been a hoot! (grin!!) Glad you’re joining me on this journey! πŸ™‚

  13. He may have been a millionaire, but he was a huge jerk. Good thing you listened to your inner voice and saved yourself from that guy.

  14. I’ve had such a long week but kept thinking, don’t forget Sunday..don’t forget Sunday. Yesterday at work I was like, what day is it today? (too many days working in a row.)

    Catching up on my reading and couldn’t wait to read your story this week. Glad the story is seeming to get ‘better’. As in YOU are more in control of your life.


  15. @Elle: Yep, I bet he thought that his money could buy him everything…including multiple girlfriends! Not even close… πŸ˜‰ So glad my inner voice had returned and that I listened to it!

    @The Rambler: Awww, bless your heart! Thank you so much for joining me on my journey! πŸ™‚ It definitely DOES get much better… πŸ˜‰

  16. Totally laughing at Mr. Bachelor with a hot tub in his dining room!s LOL
    Wow, Mr. Millionaire sounds like quite the winner.s So glad you listened to your gut!

  17. Good for you, listening to that inner voice. I just realized I had never finished reading these posts about life before PN! Good way to get my comment count up! LOL! Gotta catch YaYa!

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