My husband and I look at each other and shake our heads, trying to figure out how, when we say ‘No’ to something – to avoid/stop/delay/whatever – the reaction our darling daughter, who on the turn of a dime, can turn into a royal little bitch. There, I said it. I love her to pieces, but she can and does turn into a bitch on a whim, when it suits her. OK, sure, I have my bitchy moments too, but I sure didn’t foresee it in a child…but then again, when that child comes across as 5 going on 40, well, I guess it’s to be expected.
Quite often I do have to remind my husband of that fact, by saying “Take a chill pill – she’s five!!” when he has the expectation that she should understand something that even some adults have issues with understanding or even a basic comprehension of. But there are those moments that I feel like I want to rip my hair out by the roots – when my darling daughter simply won’t listen, gets mad at getting an answer she doesn’t want, and proceeds to do a stomping, growling, facial contortion borderline-tantrum activity that just has my hubby and me throwing up our hands and asking “Why?” So of course we’re not looking forward to those teen years in the future, when her reactions are even more fine-tuned with experience and age…we’re hoping that we’ll get through to her at this early age to hopefully deter some of that behavior when she’s older.
Don’t get me wrong – for every time there’s an adverse reaction from our darling daughter, there are hundreds of angelic moments that more than tip the scale on the positive side. Seriously, we couldn’t have special ordered a more wonderful child if we tried. But in case there were any misconceptions that our little angel is perfect – um, not even close! Then again, who is??
I love her to pieces, and am so happy she’s around – just there are some moments I have to put myself in a ‘time-out’ of my own so I don’t say or do something that’s going to ‘scar’ her emotionally in the future years…these are, after all, the formulative years. I want to make sure that my reactions to her (or anyone else for that matter), don’t come back and bite me later. She is her father’s daughter in the ‘literal world’ as well as the musical one, and she is definitely her mother’s daughter in the emotional world…and the periodic bitchy one, too. 😉