Three weeks of Spring Break has come to a close – as of yesterday, my daytime hours have been restored to uninterrupted quiet. Blissful silence.
Don’t get me wrong, I love spending extra daytime time with the hubby and kids, but I can never seem to get anything done. Now that I’m walking a mile in my mom’s shoes, I can totally understand what she meant all those years ago.
Isn’t it funny as you’re growing up you think to yourself “Yeah, yeah, whatever…” when grownups tell you to enjoy (insert appropriate action word here) now, because time flies by too fast? Or when they say “When you have kids of your own, you’ll understand”.
I can finally say I do understand. And am passing that baton to Princess Nagger as I find myself telling her to tuck that moment away and remember it when she’s all grown up and has kids of her own.
I better be careful, if I keep it up I’ll become my mother.
Speaking of being careful… Unless you were living under a rock last week, you probably heard or read all about the ESPN sports reporter, Britt McHenry, being a total Mean Girl to a booth attendant at a towing company when her car was towed from the parking lot of the restaurant she was eating at.
While I do not condone her behavior – at all – you know how there are always three sides to every story, right? Each side, and the truth. While some may think that the video is the ‘true’ story, if you watch it, you can see that it was clearly edited.
Which takes the whole incident out of context, only showing one side of the story, not both sides of the story. I’d be curious to see the video intact and unedited, including whatever the tow booth attendant said to McHenry during her Mean Girl moment.
Like I said, I do not in any way shape or form condone McHenry’s obvious lack of compassion and basic niceness to the towing attendant, but I also think possibly the whole thing (the video in particular) was manipulated to make her look worse.
Especially considering the towing company in question is notorious for towing cars that shouldn’t be towed, or having ‘spotters’ notify them the minute anyone leaves the lot to go elsewhere instead of the place the lot belongs to – like crossing the street to get cash out of an ATM because the restaurant – whose lot you’re parked in – only takes cash. So their towing practices are shady at best.
Things get taken out of context all the time – and obviously the severely edited video does just that, making McHenry look even meaner than mean to the attendant.
But it also brings up questions like how mean was the booth attendant to McHenry, pushing those buttons (possibly on purpose because of her being an ‘on air’ personality), and why was the video edited so minutely to make sure it exacerbated McHenry’s Mean Girl persona?
Inquiring minds want to know…
It’s time once again for Rory Bore’s Tuesday Chat!
This week’s prompt or question is:
“Tell me about a recent fear that you faced.”
Franklin D. Roosevelt once said “there is nothing to fear but fear itself.”
As human beings, it’s our nature to be fearful, though for some it’s more pronounced than others, some who let their fears control their lives. I’m not one of those people. Not saying I don’t have fears – fear of acceptance, fear of failure, typical fears we all experience.
Life can be full of twist and turns – I know my life has been, what with Cheater Husband #1 ditching me right before our third anniversary for another woman, then my rebound, Abusive Husband #2, being scary abusive and causing me to fear for my life should I dare leave him.
I left him anyway. Shortly after our second anniversary, when on that particular day he came close to throwing me down a flight of stairs in anger.
See what I did right there? Some of you didn’t know my current hubby is #3 – third time’s a charm and all that jazz, right? I don’t necessarily have a fear of revealing that I’ve been married three times, per se, but there are so many judgey people out there that I tend to avoid that topic.
Maybe I fear how they’ll react to me, considering my brother and his wife excluded me from their ‘inner circle’ of friends when I divorced The Abuser, because he maintained a friendship with them at the time, and was so very talented about looking like the good guy and me as the crazy one.
And yet, if I had not had the courage to stand up for myself, if I had simply followed the advice of others to ‘suck it up’ and live with it, I would not be alive today.
It all boils down to that typical fear of failure thing. I felt like a failure twice over, and feared reaction – and rejection – from my peers. We as humans tend to get too comfortable in whatever mode we’re in – we find solid ground, a place that ‘feels safe’, get comfy and settle right in.
It’s how we’re programmed – we look for safety and stay there. Fear is the number one reason why people stay in their safety zones, afraid to conquer their fears.
But here’s the thing – you don’t actually have to “conquer” fear. You have to master it.
Mark Twain once said, “Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear – not absence of fear.”
And Ralph Waldo Emerson said some wise words, too:
“Whatever you do, you need courage. Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising that tempt you to believe your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires some of the same courage that a soldier needs. Peace has its victories, but it takes brave men and women to win them.”
Bottom line is fear is not your enemy – think of it as a compass pointing you to the areas where you need to grow. Courage is a mental thing, not an emotional thing – so embrace the fear and let yourself grow.
I plan to practice what I preach. Watch me grow.
What fears have you faced (and conquered)?
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