As moms (and in some cases dads) we tend to do everything to excess when it comes to our kids and taking care of the household. We never get a vacation or get to call in sick, we just push through and get it done.
The downside to that is when we take a step back and realize we’re doing way too much for the other members of our family when they’re quite capable, in a sense enabling them to expect that you will do it all.
Sometimes when I’m feeling really under-appreciated for all that I do, I feel like going on strike – one mom did just that for 6 days. Did you read about that awhile ago? The strike wasn’t about her “normal job and responsibilities as a mom” as stated in the article.
We might have to touch on that verbiage “normal job and responsibilities as a mom” a bit later. That might need to be another post entirely. But I digress.
During the six-day strike she continued to do other parts of her ‘job’ by cooking meals and packing their lunches for school. Oh, and of course she still did the laundry – but only if it was sorted and next to the laundry room.
What she did stop doing was the chores and tasks her daughters should have been doing themselves – like cleaning their dishes, picking up their dirty clothes off the floor, and cleaning up after art projects – things like that.
Her strike was about the overtime – above and beyond the aforementioned ‘normal’ job and responsibilities – more specifically the time she spent performing her daughters’ chores for them. She realized she was doing too much rather than teaching them to be responsible for themselves, so she went on strike – that strike lasted six days.
She wasn’t fed up with her kids, or looking for a break from being a mom, but she was fed up with having to be a nag to get them to do it. I know the feeling – it seems I have to be a major nag to get everyone else to pick up after themselves, and in most cases I might as well be talking to air, because I still have to constantly nag. I don’t like being a nag.
More often than not I feel very under-appreciated for all that I do around here. I wonder if it would take six days for my family to notice I stopped doing it all, or if they would actually get a clue earlier – or at all.
While I have never gone on strike, I have been less consistent with keeping the house clean – it’s sort of like a rebellion mode or maybe a ‘why bother?’ thought process because no matter how much I clean and organize, I have 2-1/2 people out of 4 messing it back up again. Which means it takes at least twice as long to clean and organize in the first place.
Which brings me to this week’s question:
Have you ever been tempted to go on strike when you discover yourself doing too much and not being appreciated? How do you get your family to pick up after themselves without being a nag?
Have a great weekend.
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