Respect can be a complicated mode if we look at it that way. We learn all about respect (hopefully) from our parents and other adult figures during our childhood, like our teachers. We can’t confuse ‘respect’ with ‘obedience’ – some kids might obey because they are afraid. If they respect you, they will obey because they know you want what’s best for them.
Respect is a balancing act. The best way to teach or earn respect is to show respect. I’ve known a lot of people that have the ‘do as I say, don’t do as I do’ type personality – and their kids (and others in their life who are influenced by them) have mirrored their disrespect. Another saying to remember is “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”
Respect is an attitude.
The best way to earn respect is to show respect.
Some simple ways to show respect are to be honest (if you do something wrong, admit it and apologize), be positive (don’t embarrass, insult or make fun of your kids or others – compliment them instead. Or, as many of our mothers always said “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all!), be polite (use “please” and “thank you” – it’s amazing how far those simple words will go!), be reliable (keep promises – show that you really mean what you say), and be considerate (think before you speak – something I always need to work on…my mouth moves faster than my brain does sometimes) and be a good listener.
Self-respect is one of the most important forms of respect. Once we respect ourselves, it is easier to respect others, who will in turn show respect towards you. See? Respect really is a balancing act!
How do you handle the balancing act? If you have kids, what kinds of things do you do to teach them about respect?
This Respectful Spin Cycle was brought to you in part by Jen, who I have the greatest admiration and Respect for, and who is also Sprite’s Keeper. Show a little respect and stop by and see how others view respect! Please and Thank You.