I’m human, so I’ve made plenty of mistakes for sure! Everything from a simple miscalculation in measurements when making a pumpkin pie one year (using Tablespoons instead of teaspoons to measure the spices – the worst pie I ever made) to silly mistakes like putting the Christmas tree together in the wrong order and having what looked like a pregnant tree… I think the most significant mistake I ever made was getting into a relationship while on the rebound from my first husband leaving me for another woman.
It was at a time in my life when I was the most vulnerable, the feeling of being rejected by the person you thought you would be spending the rest of your life with. Along came what appeared to be a knight in shining armor – he knew all the right things to say, did all the right things that convinced me that he truly cared about me. I ignored the signs of his controlling ways – from his insistence that I move from Seattle to Michigan where he lived, to his demands that I sell all of my personal belongings that might have any connection to my ex. When I did sell those things, I thought nothing of his insistence that I put that money into his bank account.
He put on a good act, showing his charming side to all my friends and family, and won almost all of them over. He had me won over, though there were small signs that I either overlooked or outright ignored. After I moved to Michigan and right before we got married, his true side came out. You can read all about it here if you haven’t already. I made the mistake of not trusting my gut, for not seeing the signs, because I didn’t let enough time pass after my first husband left to be steady on my feet before diving into another ‘serious’ relationship, let alone another marriage.
The important thing is that in the end I stayed true to myself, I made sure I got myself out of that abusive situation – if I had stayed, I would not be alive today…of that I am absolutely certain. Luckily I do learn from my mistakes, and that mistake was never repeated. I believe I am the person I am today because of the things I’ve been through in my short lifetime, mistakes and all.
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